Marriage

I asked my sister what her ideal age to get married was, and she said that she would get married if she had a man she wanted to spend her life with.

Her answer really shocked me, actually. Without even noticing, I had thought of marriage as a goal, something I wanted in my life, like a career or a house, or something. Marriage was something I wanted, and all I had to do now was find a man to fill the role of husband.

Do you see where I'm going with this? The order is reversed. We are in love with love, with the idea of lifetime commitment and devotion, a sense of belonging. So much so that even the object of our affection has become a method of satisfying that desire for "eternal love".

Marriage is a gift from God. A great gift, but it is not a commandment we're supposed to fulfill by finding a husband or a wife, and it is not a step in life which we need to go through to be a "good Christian". It is not good to be alone, but it is far worse to love the idea of love more than God.

I have been in love with love, wanting to get married so much that I even had a little "husband mold" through which I measured and matched every available guy in my life. This is not a sisterly act, and it is not a godly attitude.

Marriage is a gift, not with an ideal age, not with an ideal man. When I love God above all, and love a man, who loves me, but loves God above all. .